Blonde – “Oh God, get your own personality!”
Brunette – “Never!”
Genuine snippet of conversation between two girls sat on the train across the aisle from me. I have, of course, no idea what they were talking about. In fact, much of what they are saying now is incomprehensible too. I gather that some of it is about the guys that they know.
I’m in two minds now. Shall I talk about the girls? Their conversation? The general incomprehensibility of strangers? Or would you be more interested in my thoughts about how someone could set about getting their own personality?
None of the above? Oh, you are a stickily lot! Okay then, how about if I tell you about something funny that I just saw.
You know how you get these announcements in trains and you never know where they’re coming from or who is delivering them? Well, I just saw the deliverer of one of these messages.
He was in the throes of telling us all about where the dining car was situated and when I looked up, it was obvious that the girl stood near him was dithering. She must have looked hungry to him, and so in need of extra directions because suddenly, over the tannoy, he began saying that the dining car was “that way, that way – not that way – that way”.
It was only because I saw him delivering this message and gesticulating at the same time that it made sense to me. To everyone on the train it must have been pretty incomprehensible.
So there you go – two things that could have been incomprehensible to me. One of them was and the other was not. What made the difference? Just the fact that I saw the context for one and not for the other.
So, what lesson do I take from this? I can think of a few. What do you think?
When you get it and no one else around you does, that’s pretty cool. Definitely worthy of a blog post.
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Ah, if only that was my general experience of life, Jennie! π
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Indeed!
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All types of communication depend largely on context, right?
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I guess. I would write different things to a male lorry-driver from Croyden as opposed to a female mud-wrestler from Maui. I wonder why that is. Agenda I suppose. I’m trying to give up agendas. Thing is, I’m a 40 a day man. Sigh.
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As long as one is alive, one has to have some sort of agenda, right? A 40 a day man? What does that mean? 40 cigarettes a day? 40 words a day?
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40 agendas per day. π
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We received an “agenda”during every year of high school. Not the same kind of agenda you’re referring to, but what you in the UK would call a diary.
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Diary = Agenda? That sounds weird. Read me one of your daily entries.
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I meant diary as in calendar. βΊ
I haven’t written in a journal for a long time.
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Ah. Diary as journal was my misunderstanding of your meaning.
Agenda = Calendar make far more sense.
And yet …
This was not what I meant.
Let me try to explain. When someone speaks of something, they have a preconceived idea of what they mean. This is their ‘agenda’. Sometimes, agendas can be hidden. Sometimes they are more overt.
So, if I were to say to a pharmacist ‘my friend wants to know if you sell condoms’ then my overt agenda is to find out, for my friend …
Hold one – wait – let me just check … are condoms permitted?
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I understand what you meant.βΊ I just wanted to throw another meaning into the mix. We all have agendas; do you really think it’s possible to ride yourself of them? And why would you want to do so?
Condoms?! Blasphemy! π No, that’s still safe for public consumption.
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No, I don’t think that it’s possible to rid oneself entirely of agendas. But a few less would be good. I think the basis of most conflict is that people (and nations) have different agendas.
And – whew – good to know. Favourite flavour?
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I agree that people (myself included) have too many agendas. Hard to pick only one flavour. Milk chocolate, peanut butter, mango, coconut…mainly sweet stuff. Amazingly, I have no cavities! Good luck and genes, I suppose. Et toi? Shouldn’t you be going to bed soon?
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I had no idea that you could get condoms in all those flavours! Just checking – but when you say ‘public consumption’ you don’t mean …
On a slightly more properer note – it’s a little after 10pm here in the UK and so yes, I will be going to bed soon. But for now – still working on that assignment. π
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You almost made me choke on my cookie. I didn’t know the flavour question was related to the condom one.
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Hahaha! Erm, that is – sorry! Whoopsie. π
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“Whoopsie” is not a very manly thing to say.
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Is that true or is that just how you (and the world) see it? π
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It was my socially brainwashed voice speaking. π
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Social brainwashing doesn’t seem like your style. π
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I am no more immune to it than anyone else. βΊWhatcha staying up so late for? (I’m not complaining, mind you.)
I’m the only one left in the office now. Feels weird. Also feeling a bit empty (not the office…me).
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East coast(ish) of Canada girl – go home! I’m up because I’m treating myself to a book after having written all day. The assignment is done and sent. All is well with the world. π
Sleeping now – g’night.
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Good night!
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It was good for me – how was it for you? π
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Good too. π
How has your day been? I had to get a bit of snow off my eyelashes when I got to work. I’m the only one who walks here.
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Ha – I think I’m the only person here who walks to work too! π
No snow so far this season for us – apart from a few flurries of nothing at all a couple of week back. It’s been very mild.
Someone in the office has just applied perfume – they must be off out on the pull – it’s Friday night after all. It’s strange how I associated the perfume with you. Okay – that’s not appropriate – sorry.
Snow on eyelashes – great image – you should be a writer! What do you do?
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Cool! How far is it to work? I’ve seen (from my snooping) that you also take the train to get around. Do you have a car?
Do you miss the snow?
“Out on the pull” – nice expression. Can’t remember hearing that before. If it’s a perfume you like, I’m happy you associated it with me. π I wear perfume only occasionally; I have one called Moroccan Rose from The Body Shop, which I wore recently. Besides two other ladies, I’m surrounded by guys at the office. Too much testosterone. π Only one or two of them ever bother to change the garbage bag when it’s full, and make a real mess in the washroom.
Just ate some blueberry yogurt, and about to boil the kettle for tea.
A propos frosty eyelashes: https://detoutetderien2015.wordpress.com/2016/12/09/crisp/
I work with numbers. Et toi?
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I work with code. I’m a ‘software designer & developer’ (by day) and a writer (by night). π
How is it possible to have too much testosterone? Surely it is God’s gift to women!
The pulling phrase is a common enough thing to hear here. If you imagine – it is close to zero now and yet the streets are full of ‘totty’ – young ladies in tight tops and short skirts tottering about in high heels (hence totty).
I had a car until about 6mths ago when it failed the test. I just gave it to my dad because it would cost him nothing to repair, yet would cost me Β£800 to do so. Happy not to have the hassle to be honest. I could buy another at any time, but not tempted. Not missing it.
Thirty five minutes to work, thirty five minutes back. Easy peasy. π
You drive?
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No, CHOCOLATE is God’s gift to women. π
Totty is a great word. I avoid high heels whenever I can. Comfort above all else. π
35 minutes each way sounds perfect. It takes me only 25 minutes each way.
I can drive, but haven’t owned a car in a long time. Don’t miss having one either.
Staying in on Friday night?
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Alone again on a Friday. Only my trusty MacBook to keep me company. Going to bed soon. The heating has gone off (timer) and my feet are getting colder. I’ll be tucked up in bed with Martin Chuzzlewit (book by Dickens).
Hmm – I once heard someone say that she prefers endorphins to chocolate. π
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Sounds like you better climb under that orange and black blanket to get warm. βΊ
Endorphins ARE better than chocolate. How forgetful of me. Sleep tight.
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Thanks, my friendly friend – you too when the time comes. But for now – enjoy your afternoon. If you decide to do something special, do it safely, and if you decide not to – remember that you’re special enough already.
Yeah, I know – schmaltzy, right? π
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I’ll be heading home soon. Give the bears a cuddle for me.
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Hope you got home safe and … all of that. π
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And all of what? π
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That! You know. That that. π
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No I don’t, actually. Too vague. βΊ
Did you give your bears a cuddle from me? Why not?
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The bears are independent cusses – they dodge cuddle like the plague (yep – much like I dodged those questions).
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Dodgy character you are. π
By the way, ‘dodgy’ is one if my favourite British words. That, and ‘blimey’. I burst into a fit of giggles every time I heard someone say ‘blimey’ (that, and ‘twat’).
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Yep – you got me. I think you recognise that trait in yourself too, yes? π
Okay – my eyebrows just crawled up my forehead when I read the last word you typed there! Polite society and all of that.
You do know that all of my half dozen follows are reading this thread with vicarious, if not salacious interest, right? π
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Hahaha! Since I didn’t grow up in the UK, that last word carries almost no meaning for me, so I find it hilarious when someone tries to insult another person by calling them that. I just can’t take it seriously.
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Insult? No, not really.
It’s the connotations.
It’s a rather personal part of the anatomy, my dear.
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Nobody told me that. *face red as a beet*
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Now that I would like to see. π
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You edited my typo for me? That’s very considerate. π
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I did. I’m nice like that. π
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β₯β₯
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I’m not dodgy.
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Hmm, okay. π
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‘Cusses’? ππ
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Oh, yers! π
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I beg your pardon? Non ho capito.
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E ‘come si dice in Italia – se si dispone di un bambino problema non la necessario bloccare nella credenza – che potrebbe aiutare temporaneamente, ma si creerΓ piΓΉ problemi nel lungo periodo.
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Ancora non vai a letto? π
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π Mi piacerebbe andare a letto.
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Buona notte, mio caro amico.
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Buona notte. Dormire bene quando arriva il vostro tempo. Goditi i tuoi sogni. Spero che sono vividi. π
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Grazie. Posso abbracciarti? π
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Tutto bene??
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SΓ¬, va tutto bene. E ‘solo che, nonostante il mio flirt, posso solo essere un amico a voi.
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Glad to hear everything is fine. Just came back from getting passport photos taken and doing a bit of grocery shopping.
Sono sicura che giΓ sei andato a letto. Mi dai lβaddio? E perchΓ©? Lo so che no avrei dovuto scrivere il mio ultimo comment ieri sera β mi dispiace cosΓ¬ tanto, Robert. Io so che tu puoi SOLO essere mio amico β per me va bene. Davvero. Ti avrei dovuto dire che ho un compagno a lungo termineβ¦
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The time has come. π I plan to sleep for 9 hours…oh, how I love sleep, especially when I have vivid, sometimes even lucid dreams. On weekends, I tend to run in the late morning/early afternoon, and I am so looking forward to it. Hasta pronto, mi amigo amable. π
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Ha – you’ve gone all Mexican on me – what’s that all about? π
Stayed up until 1pm in the end – just reading. But I made sure that I got my 7 hours sleep. I tend to feel more tired if I oversleep – what’s that all about?
I love those vivid dreams too. I’ve been trying to cultivate them in meditation, but without much success. I’ll get there. Half past seven = Saturday afternoon – going to do some Open Uni stuff now. Starting a new module after finishing the assignment at the end of the last one.
I feel full of food. How was your run today?
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Actually, I learned Spanish primarily in Spain. I stayed with a Spanish couple for several months, and the lady wanted to adopt me. I still refer to her as ‘mi madre espaΓ±ola’. π
You stayed up until 1 pm?! As in an hour after midday? Or did you mean 1 am?Were you still reading the Dickens book? 7 hours is not enough for me. I need at least 8, otherwise I get extraordinarily grumpy. Oversleeping makes me tired too, but for me, that means more than 10 hours. βΊ
You don’t have lucid dreams? I love it when I realise I’m dreaming. I do silly stuff like poking people in my dream to see how they react.
My run was great! It was -17, so I had to bundle up and wrap my nose and mouth with a scarf, but I don’t mind that. Afterwards, I took a steaming bath…it felt wonderful.
Gotta do some ironing now.
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Nitpicker! π
Sounds to me like you had a lovely afternoon, (i always want to type a name at this point and then remember that I don’t have one, and it feels odd). I like to hear people describing enjoyment.
Yes – still on the Dickens, although I have picked up a non fiction called The Literature Book. Guess what that’s all about! π
Ironing? Don’t you have staff for that? π
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I prefer the 24 hr clock; no more am/pm confusion. π
There is only one blogger, who’s become a dear friend, who knows my real name, and she says it doesn’t suit me. She calls me Mags. π
You read a lot. (I have a knack for stating the obvious). I don’t read enough books.
I gave my staff the weekend off. π
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I get the impression that you would trust a female more readily than a male. I know, I know – it’s more complicated than that. Just remember that I’m working on limited information here and that, at the end of the day, this is just my impression. π
Yes – I read a heck of a lot. I also write lots too. Well, lotsish. π
Good for you – the staff will be whooping it up now – Saturday night and all of that.
Hope you’re giving yourself some time off too.
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Yes, it’s more complicated than that. If I didn’t think I could trust you, I wouldn’t be telling you so much about myself. βΊ
Have you ever seen the movie Her (2013)?
I listened to the soundtrack of The Leftovers several times. It made me want to cry the first time.
Be gentle on your eyes – they need a break sometimes. βΊ
You do your own cleaning?
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Yes – I saw the movie. Finest piece of celluloid in 2013 for sure. π
My words, appearing on the screen of your phone, are your Her.
Crying.
Gentle.
Erm – as and when the fancy strikes me. I’m better at tidying than cleaning. π
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I may have given you the impression that I cry a lot. The truth is that I don’t. I often wonder why other women cry at events such as weddings. Such a weird bunch. π
To me, you have a face and a name, but to you, I have neither. So, who’s Her?
I don’t like cleaning, so I do it if I absolutely can’t stand the dust/dirt anymore.
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Actually, I don’t have the impression that you cry a lot. You strike me as being competent, interesting, energetic, engaging, interested and maybe a little bit dirty. π
I don’t think that you are a Her. You are more … real?
Hmm – let me evaluate that for a while.
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Another thing to add to your list: I’m a loud laugher (aka I laugh with passion). I always wonder how people can laugh so quietly.
I’m really clean from my bath. π A little bit dirty? Maybe. Last night, I dreamt of…oh, nothing. PG13.
No, I’m definitely not a Her. I can’t converse with thousands of OS at once. π
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Another part of the picture coloured in – nice. π
No, actually, neither of those – just referring to your comment that you “I donβt like cleaning”. But, good to know that you dreamt of … nothing last night. π Was it a vivid … nothing?
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Come now, don’t pretend to be blonde…you inserted the double entendre there on purpose.
Yes, it was a vivid…nothing. Haven’t had one of those in a while. π
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Triple entendre. I was just interested in which one you would choose. π
That sounds … interesting. Prolly not PG13 though.
I think this is might be my cue to go to bed. Yes it is – I just saw some Italian drop in .. π
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Am I just one big psychological experiment to you? π
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