We are all ‘being’ in one way or another – it’s unavoidable. But some ways of being are better than others. Being kind and loving feels better than being cruel and impatient.
Why is this so?
When we are kind to someone, it increases the chance that they will be kind to us. And when we are cruel we will often find that the person we are being cruel to, gives us the same treatment back, which makes us feel unpleasant.
But wait – does it have to be that way?
When someone is cruel to me, how can I stop myself from being cruel in return?
Simply this: in the face of cruelty – be deliberately kind.
By choosing to be kind, I am taking charge, and creating my own future. If I want to perpetuate cruelty in my future, then all I need to do is frown back and do something cruel. If I want to stop the cycle of cruelty, then I can choose, deliberately and purposefully, to be kind.
- That person who pushed in front of me in the queue – instead of glaring at them, I instead smile and offer them a piece of chewing gum.
- The woman who refused to co-operate with me – instead of stomping angrily off, I apologise for my stubborn insistence that she ‘start the ball rolling’.
- Those children that insist of kicking a ball into my garden – instead of telling them off, I offer to be the goalie for half an hour.
In this way, we learn to be better people than we were. We learn to share, rather than to take. We learn that we can create the future that we want – starting now.